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When was the last time you slow danced?

nobody@vox.com(love.earned) — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 02:23:32 -0700

Beauty in the Dark (Groove with You) - Mos Def

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What do you do when you have a feeling that someone is untrue?

nobody@vox.com(love.earned) — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 15:06:18 -0700

Get to the root. Ask yourself why continually until you get to the root cause and you can no longer ask yourself why.

Has he/she done something to make them unworthy of your trust?

How much does that matter?

(I sometimes like to draw this all out)

I trust emotions, they are what you feel is real. Dismissing them will only lead you to a negative feedback loop. DEAL with it, ACT on it by telling the truth of how you feel. Otherwise, you unknowingly enter into a strange arrangement were you play detective & its a righteous game of who's being wronged. Its all bad. The truth is within yourself. The question you should be asking is:

Are you honestly ready to trust this person? No if's, and's or but's.

And if in reality he or she is being truthful. What will it matter if you don't believe him or her?

Feelings & emotions get convoluted. Period. It would be nice to hear the truth, get absolution, closure. But you're not always going to get it no matter how you manipulate the situation. Seconds, minutes, days, sleepless nights add up. You're only getting your heart broken by little minute fractures at a time.

When do you want to remove the blinders & see what is really happening & what you do have control over?

Feel what you feel, whether that be mad, sad, used & abused. But get over it & don't dwell, love. Don't waste the pretty or handsome because you get uglier & uglier (inside/out), when you are unhappy.

And there's your soul-tion.

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Lesson Learned

nobody@vox.com(love.earned) — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 23:33:31 -0700

What has become of my dreams and passions?

I know I have it in me, so why am I not trying with as much vigor and tenacity as my younger days? I think, "just get through the tape, finish the race."

Really?
Is that how you feel when you are trying to achieve something you've worked so hard for?
How bad do I really want this career, this life?

I know I need to reassess my wants, needs, desires and re-visit why.

So my new mantra is simply...

Be your higher self

whatever that may be...

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Revolutionary Road speak truths

nobody@vox.com(love.earned) — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 22:42:05 -0700

"I wanted IN. I just wanted us to live again. For years I thought we've shared this secret that we would be wonderful in the world. I don't know exactly how, but just the possibility kept me hoping. How pathetic is that? So stupid. To put all your hopes in a promise that was never made."

"Tell me the truth, Frank, remember that? We used to live by it. And you know what's so good about the truth? Everyone knows what it is however long they've lived without it. No one forgets the truth, Frank, they just get better at lying."

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Use Somebody

nobody@vox.com(love.earned) — Wed, 27 May 2009 15:16:55 -0700

Use Somebody - Kings of Leon

As I was driving home, I heard this song on the radio. Immediately I was taken aback. Someway, somehow feelings surface whether I have control over them or not. Maybe its a reminder that its okay to feel and express because lately I've been feeling the opposite, recluse almost. I spent the whole afternoon re-reading old blogs from lifetimes past and I came to the conclusion that I seriously am re-learning lessons of pain that I quickly forget when times are good.

Never forget... or the universe will find some cosmic way of reminding you.

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Amen

nobody@vox.com(love.earned) — Thu, 21 May 2009 20:55:30 -0700

Little Dragon "No Love" 2008

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Getting back to earning love.

nobody@vox.com(love.earned) — Mon, 18 May 2009 00:56:43 -0700

I find time to myself so enlightening.

I've never admitted this to anyone, but I have an addiction problem. I get addicted to people, or in clearer terms certain individuals I am romantically or lustfully involved with. I don't know it at first because my brain fools me into thinking that its just some random "Joe" to get to know. But as time passes, I open up my heart and the person who was just some guy becomes my source of "happiness." And I couldn't wait to get my fix.

And so it becomes an on going cycle of heartaches and quick fixes. I created this fucked up reward system that leads me far from where I really want to be. Its the feeling of being worthless, powerless & out of control. I didn't realize who I was, or who I was becoming. Jealously would rear its ugly head and I would do nothing but tremor & let my heart beat uncontrollably. Jealously is a funny phenomenon. It's simply wanting what someone else has. But to the wiser, it is a reminder of something beautiful we could attain if we were just in another situation. If only I were wiser sooner and realized that if I let go, I could have a second chance to do things right.

So that's where I'm at, remembering that the healing process always begins with abstinence. I'm slowing perfecting the way I love and how I define it. It is true that we learn our greatest lesson from the most difficult obstacle we overcome.

STOP LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES and start looking within yourself.

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No Porn Tonight

nobody@vox.com(love.earned) — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 22:49:48 -0700

Recent Chat:

Havey: hey booger nut
Me: hey bebe
Havey: so i have a story for u, i know a friend that worked in the hospital and she told me a crazy story

Me: hahah please share
Havey: so this lady walks in the emergency room and she says that she has a problem down there and so they check her out and guess what they find?
Me: an animal or something in her ass?
Havey: maggots
Me: EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEW!!!
Havey: apparently
Me: fuuuuck! thats gross!
Havey: her husband wanted her to put an apple in her pussy it got stuck in there
and she didnt take it out for like a week and maggots grew inside her vagina
Me: eww!
Havey: and were coming out to play
Me: so what did they end up doing to treat her?
Havey: scraped it all out
Me: uuUuuG!
Havey: after she told me that i didnt want to hear anything else
Me: now i can't watch porn tonight
Havey: LMAO
Me: dammit harbs i can't get that image out of my head &my vagina feels weird now
Havey: hahahahahha
Me: crazy, hey i might be taking my test in 2 weeks, urrrg i'm nervous

Havey: you'll be fine think like this things could be worse

...u could have maggots coming out of your vagina
Me: UUuuuUUG!
LOLZ!
omg
ur so right, thanks for that insight
i'll be thinking of that every time i get nervous

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Happy Birthday Gordon!

nobody@vox.com(love.earned) — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 12:25:20 -0700

Today is my dear friend Gordon's birthday. I decided to make him an ice cream cake with some of his favorite fruits that are in season. This post is picture heavy so it might take a while to load. But enjoy!

fresh strawberries

fresh strawberry puree

banana puree

IMG_9349

happy birhday

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Old Friends

nobody@vox.com(love.earned) — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 22:18:17 -0700

evolme (10:13:13 PM): yeah i'd love to see u
evolme (10:13:16 PM): not in a lesbo way
itin (10:13:18 PM): me too.
evolme (10:13:19 PM): hahah
itin (10:13:22 PM): haha better not be.
itin (10:13:23 PM): lol.
evolme (10:13:25 PM): i'm still not lesbian btw
evolme (10:13:29 PM): lolz
itin (10:13:31 PM): still not ahha.
itin (10:13:43 PM): i think by now you would have discovered if you really were.
evolme (10:14:03 PM): haha yeah, bcuz u and becca always made fun of me saying that out of everyone in our group i would be the gay
itin (10:14:09 PM): LOL!
itin (10:14:20 PM): THE gay haha.
itin (10:14:23 PM): well you never know.
itin (10:14:24 PM): haha jk.
evolme (10:14:25 PM): yesh THE GAY
itin (10:14:28 PM): ok do your cake.
evolme (10:14:29 PM): stfu!
evolme (10:14:33 PM): haha bye!
itin (10:14:36 PM): lol byeeee.
evolme (10:14:41 PM): lala says hi btw
itin (10:14:55 PM): AWW lala! chesters says sup nigga.

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